How to Not Feel Overwhelmed | College Problems
I think I can speak for all of us when I say that stress has become the obnoxious, invasive best friend that we all really didn't ask for. Because of her, I'll have days where I'll feel so overwhelmed to the point where I rather sit and think about how overwhelmed I am instead of checking off something small like "get a glass of water" from my to-do list. I don't know about you, but I hate feeling this way because I literally cannot get anything done.
Now, the part I hate admitting, it's usually my fault. Time management is the obvious reason and that is still something I'm trying to fix so I'm not about to give you my "Top Ten Tips" but there's another reason why I can get so freakishly overwhelmed. And thank god, there's a way to avoid it. After so much trial and error (and talking with my older friends who have way more experience than I do), I finally got to the bottom of it.
I needed to let go. I'm not talking about a past memory or a toxic friend I've kept in my life for way too long. I'm talking about the positive things I had to say good bye to, at least for the time being. I'll elaborate so you're not looking at me like I'm just spewing nonsense.
Within the past year, I've learned that as a young adult, we have an infinite amount of opportunities just waiting at our fingertips. So, what do we do? We accept opportunity after opportunity without really thinking about what the commitment would be like or if the benefits are even worth our time. Then, we'll wake up one day overwhelmed and blame it on ourselves for not being able to "keep up." We'll start comparing ourselves with other people and --- girl (or boy?), it's just not healthy.
Think of it this way, you're walking down a road labeled college or whatever and you're allowed to take any amount of suitcases with you. Each suitcase contains some sort of commitment: work, sports team, a side hobby, etc. You begin with maybe two suitcases and you're doing fine! But along the way, you're presented with more opportunities, more suitcases. You don't notice that the more suitcases you take, the slower you move towards your destination. Here, you might be that one crazy kid, strutting at a decent pace with 3 suitcases in each hand. Or, maybe you're the kid who's rushing down the street, bumping into people, occasionally dropping an item. But, if you're anything like me, you're probably on the floor dying, overwhelmed, and annoyed for not being able to walk alongside the strutting kid.
(I got a headache trying to edit that paragraph. That probably means it's not going to make a whole lot of sense for y'all. So, hopefully my next example will clear things up a bit.)
A few months ago, I was juggling work, shooting weddings, taking a yoga teacher training course, teaching yoga, blogging, and managing other small commitments. I barely had time to relax. (That's sign number one by the way. If you don't have time to even put "relax/go watch a movie/read a book" in your schedule, then you know you're doing too much.) Eventually, I had to tell myself to lock up a few suitcases (el oh el throwback to my sh*t example!) and come back for them later when I did have the time. Before I got to that conclusion, it took a lot of thinking and self reflection. I needed to sit myself down and tell myself what my plan was so I'd feel less anxious about where I was going.
I found it extremely hard to let go. I was scared of feeling regret, disappointment from others, or fomo (it's a thing). I ended up experiencing all of these things. As soon as I cut whatever it was off, I felt instant regret. I had to constantly remind myself why I had to in the first place. When that wasn't enough, my friends would remind me, giving me reassurance. And lucky me, in my case, disappointing the other people involved was unavoidable. But, like I said earlier, I had to just keep reminding myself that I was doing it for the "greater good" because A) it was detrimental to my mental health and B) I was stopping the other person involved from growing. They could've been working with someone who's just as passionate as they are, people who could take it to the next level. I really didn't need to be dragging down another person because I was insecure about how that person could feel about me. It was selfish. As for missing out, eventually I had tell myself "stop it, you're being careful and wise about the way you spend your time, don't feel bad about making mature decisions".
Now, I'm temporarily working full time, taking one online class, and blogging. I have side hobbies (skateboarding, yoga, vlogging) but I don't have the time to commit to them every single day and that's okay! Partially because I have terrible time management but I'll get there one day (fingers crossed). I don't have everything figured out but I can tell you that I'm enjoying life way more than I was before and stress is just a side hoe now.
Let me know what you think in the comments below! What are some other college problems you worked through? I feel like most of the time we overcomplicate things but once you figure it out, life does you great. (By the way, if you find something that you disagree with, leave that in the comments below too! It'll help other people gain a little insight as to what other people are thinking and who knows, you might help someone out. Because at the end of the day, I'm just one person and this is just one perspective.)
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